TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE
I think in the reality that the monks created when they made Dawn Angelus molested her in Season Two.

TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE

I think in the reality that the monks created when they made Dawn Angelus molested her in Season Two.

It’s really alarming and upsetting how many confessions about Willow’s sexual identity are published to this blog. It turns my stomach to see people call it “wrong”, “bi erasure”, and/or “jumping on a bandwagon”. They not only completely miss the point, they not only fail to recognize that being a non-sexualized, non-villainized lesbian on TV was most certainly NOT A BANDWAGON, but in the process, they are trying to erase the identity of a lot of lesbians out there. It’s so disrespectful. It’s like there is an overwhelming amount of people in the fandom who don’t understand that you can have a meaningful relationship (sexual or otherwise) with a man, and still later discover that you’re a lesbian. They don’t realize that Willow wasn’t in denial when she was with Oz, she was unaware. College opened her eyes, as it does for MANY people in the LGBT+ community. It happens literally all the time. Season 4 was all about change and finding yourself. I’m sick to death of people debating Willow’s orientation, when she plainly states it over and over again. It might be a different matter had she not made it clear what her preferences were. She knew what it was like to be with a man AND a woman. She discovered she preferred women. She never wanted to go back to men. She experienced both, and made a choice. I’m sick of people trying to put her in a box in which she does not fit. If the fandom is upset about bi erasure, it should have nothing to do with Willow and everything to do with Faith.

It’s really alarming and upsetting how many confessions about Willow’s sexual identity are published to this blog. It turns my stomach to see people call it “wrong”, “bi erasure”, and/or “jumping on a bandwagon”. They not only completely miss the point, they not only fail to recognize that being a non-sexualized, non-villainized lesbian on TV was most certainly NOT A BANDWAGON, but in the process, they are trying to erase the identity of a lot of lesbians out there. It’s so disrespectful. It’s like there is an overwhelming amount of people in the fandom who don’t understand that you can have a meaningful relationship (sexual or otherwise) with a man, and still later discover that you’re a lesbian. They don’t realize that Willow wasn’t in denial when she was with Oz, she was unaware. College opened her eyes, as it does for MANY people in the LGBT+ community. It happens literally all the time. Season 4 was all about change and finding yourself. I’m sick to death of people debating Willow’s orientation, when she plainly states it over and over again. It might be a different matter had she not made it clear what her preferences were. She knew what it was like to be with a man AND a woman. She discovered she preferred women. She never wanted to go back to men. She experienced both, and made a choice. I’m sick of people trying to put her in a box in which she does not fit. If the fandom is upset about bi erasure, it should have nothing to do with Willow and everything to do with Faith.

There should have been one truly happy marriage shown on the show. I don’t care who got married. I just wanted to see an awesome wedding done Buffy style. The atrocity that is “Hell’s Bells” does not count.

There should have been one truly happy marriage shown on the show. I don’t care who got married. I just wanted to see an awesome wedding done Buffy style. The atrocity that is “Hell’s Bells” does not count.

I feel a lot of second hand embarrassment for Spike. Many of his scenes, especially during his stalker-phase circa season five, are just a little too awkward to watch.

I feel a lot of second hand embarrassment for Spike. Many of his scenes, especially during his stalker-phase circa season five, are just a little too awkward to watch.

I feel like the fandom gives me hate for not liking Tara. I grew up on the show too and I like her character in theory just not how it is portrayed. I hated getting treated like an outsider for a preference.

I feel like the fandom gives me hate for not liking Tara. I grew up on the show too and I like her character in theory just not how it is portrayed. I hated getting treated like an outsider for a preference.

I think Buffy secretly liked the idea of Spike/Angel.

I think Buffy secretly liked the idea of Spike/Angel.

I think Spike’s crush on Buffy in season five was cute, like him playing her confidante before the musical episode, and appreciate them growing together in season seven. I just really, really hate the fact it became so destructive in the latter half of season six.

I think Spike’s crush on Buffy in season five was cute, like him playing her confidante before the musical episode, and appreciate them growing together in season seven. I just really, really hate the fact it became so destructive in the latter half of season six.

I find it a little worrying how little the Scoobies seem to care when close friends or lovers of theirs leave or die. Anyone remember Jesse? Willow And Xander’s friend for years and years? Jenny Calendar, who died to help Angel restore his soul? Willow doesn’t mention Oz much, or at all, after season 4. Hey Spike, does Drusilla ring any bells? That chick you spent 120 years dating. You tried to stake her and now all appears to be forgotten.

I find it a little worrying how little the Scoobies seem to care when close friends or lovers of theirs leave or die. Anyone remember Jesse? Willow And Xander’s friend for years and years? Jenny Calendar, who died to help Angel restore his soul? Willow doesn’t mention Oz much, or at all, after season 4. Hey Spike, does Drusilla ring any bells? That chick you spent 120 years dating. You tried to stake her and now all appears to be forgotten.

I can’t even watch past season five of Buffy because things just get too bleak and miserable (for everyone but especially for Buffy) and this show was helping me when it was lighter and escapist. Even Angelus stalking Buffy and attempting to Drusilla her wasn’t so depressing as everything post Joyce’s-death.

I can’t even watch past season five of Buffy because things just get too bleak and miserable (for everyone but especially for Buffy) and this show was helping me when it was lighter and escapist. Even Angelus stalking Buffy and attempting to Drusilla her wasn’t so depressing as everything post Joyce’s-death.

I’m so much of a Bangel shipper, but not because I like Angel more. In fact, I like Spike much more. Maybe I like Bangel because I’d like Spike for myself…

I’m so much of a Bangel shipper, but not because I like Angel more. In fact, I like Spike much more. Maybe I like Bangel because I’d like Spike for myself…

The thing that baffles me… Is that how Tumblr, that drools over Loki, Crowley, Moriarty, the Master and Hannibal, judges Spike fans for loving him. “He is sick, he is a disgusting murderer!”, they say. “Well, duh”, I say. That was kinda the point, him being “one of the worst recorded” vampires in history and all. Doesn’t mean he’s not one of the best characters I’ve ever seen on TV. I’m so tired of feeling guilty for loving Spike as a character.

The thing that baffles me… Is that how Tumblr, that drools over Loki, Crowley, Moriarty, the Master and Hannibal, judges Spike fans for loving him. “He is sick, he is a disgusting murderer!”, they say. “Well, duh”, I say. That was kinda the point, him being “one of the worst recorded” vampires in history and all. Doesn’t mean he’s not one of the best characters I’ve ever seen on TV. I’m so tired of feeling guilty for loving Spike as a character.

I don’t have a problem with people liking Xander, but I don’t get why the fandom is so unaccepting of those who don’t. People write it off as immaturity in the first few seasons, but in the last few he’s still fetishizing lesbians, slut-shaming Buffy, and interfering with Buffy’s freedom of disclosure as a victim of attempted rape.  I like problematic characters myself so I’m fine with people enjoying his character anyway, but any and all negativity about Xander gets written off pretty quickly by most of the fandom and nobody seems to really acknowledge that he is frequently a problematic character, and I hate that I feel extremely uncomfortable talking about my own opinion of him because of that.

I don’t have a problem with people liking Xander, but I don’t get why the fandom is so unaccepting of those who don’t. People write it off as immaturity in the first few seasons, but in the last few he’s still fetishizing lesbians, slut-shaming Buffy, and interfering with Buffy’s freedom of disclosure as a victim of attempted rape.  I like problematic characters myself so I’m fine with people enjoying his character anyway, but any and all negativity about Xander gets written off pretty quickly by most of the fandom and nobody seems to really acknowledge that he is frequently a problematic character, and I hate that I feel extremely uncomfortable talking about my own opinion of him because of that.

I love Tara.  Her story, her arc, her coming into her own.  She is so realistic and relatable.  I love everything about her character.  I hope one day I find my Tara.

I love Tara.  Her story, her arc, her coming into her own.  She is so realistic and relatable.  I love everything about her character.  I hope one day I find my Tara.

I never liked Buffy’s pretentious speeches in season 7. They sounded like they came right out of some peplum. Does anyone actually talk like that in real life? “There is only one thing on this earth more powerful than evil, and that’s us”. Geez. Dramatic much?

I never liked Buffy’s pretentious speeches in season 7. They sounded like they came right out of some peplum. Does anyone actually talk like that in real life? “There is only one thing on this earth more powerful than evil, and that’s us”. Geez. Dramatic much?